I Enjoyed Your Book "Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man", Mr. Steve Harvey
Posted: Tuesday, August 11, 2009
by Ronyae
Writings by Ronyae
This is a submission as a collection for a reference to my take on comedian Steve Harvey's latest book, titled Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man; A book, sometimes has a way of opening our eyes to new and hidden knowledge. But, at the same time the knowledge gained then opens doors to the hunger for the full-length of what was gained... In essence, you know that there is another side to the story, and hence you want to know it.
So, this is my hunger for the knowledge of the other side to Mr. Steve Harvey's book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man:
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Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey truly enlightened me. I'm not stating this as an overall review of the 200-something paged hardback. But reading the book gave me an insight on the ' universal' character of a man in ways that I've always yearned for; I understood why my mate refused my intentions to share my money with him, when he was low on cash at times. Realizing what may be a reason for a guy to 'step out' on his mate, even when he truly has eyes for her only (now this one, I still have trouble with). Reading the book by Steve Harvey helped me to understand some ways of how men [think], what makes them tick, and what keeps them holding on.
Although I appreciated the valuable information I received while reading the book, I found myself asking even more questions (Harvey stated many times in the book that he was giving the reader "answers" to their questions [that they may have on relationship]) that were sort of like rebuttals to what Mr. Harvey was sharing in his "tell-all".
For instance, in the book Mr. Harvey gives examples of certain actions a man will give if he truly cares for his mate: "He will take out the trash..."; "...help around the house...". But I asked this question: "What if you have a lazy guy, what then?"
See, I had rebuttal questions that weren't really created as a rebuttal, but created an environment of debate. If this man showed two of Mr. Harvey's 'Golden Acts of Love', which is "Profess [love], Provide [nurture] and Protect [safety]" and then fell short on the third, what do I do about it? I knew Mr. Harvey wasn't a certified psychologist, or is he? But, if he could tell his readers how to understand a [good] man of value, then what to do about the [bad] men who want to do their best, but have no drive or productive upbringing to be that man, or are the type who just don't do certain things? I had questions on how to react to the man who loved me, but couldn't see himself in the kitchen, slaving over a hot stove. Does he truly love me? And after 15 years together, I read your book Mr. Harvey, to find a problem in our relationship? WOW! I'm a bit perplexed on that matter, and would like to see that one tackle in perhaps, a sequel?
(c) AMAZON[dot]com
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey truly enlightened me. I'm not stating this as an overall review of the 200-something paged hardback. But reading the book gave me an insight on the ' universal' character of a man in ways that I've always yearned for; I understood why my mate refused my intentions to share my money with him, when he was low on cash at times. Realizing what may be a reason for a guy to 'step out' on his mate, even when he truly has eyes for her only (now this one, I still have trouble with). Reading the book by Steve Harvey helped me to understand some ways of how men [think], what makes them tick, and what keeps them holding on.
Although I appreciated the valuable information I received while reading the book, I found myself asking even more questions (Harvey stated many times in the book that he was giving the reader "answers" to their questions [that they may have on relationship]) that were sort of like rebuttals to what Mr. Harvey was sharing in his "tell-all".
For instance, in the book Mr. Harvey gives examples of certain actions a man will give if he truly cares for his mate: "He will take out the trash..."; "...help around the house...". But I asked this question: "What if you have a lazy guy, what then?"
See, I had rebuttal questions that weren't really created as a rebuttal, but created an environment of debate. If this man showed two of Mr. Harvey's 'Golden Acts of Love', which is "Profess [love], Provide [nurture] and Protect [safety]" and then fell short on the third, what do I do about it? I knew Mr. Harvey wasn't a certified psychologist, or is he? But, if he could tell his readers how to understand a [good] man of value, then what to do about the [bad] men who want to do their best, but have no drive or productive upbringing to be that man, or are the type who just don't do certain things? I had questions on how to react to the man who loved me, but couldn't see himself in the kitchen, slaving over a hot stove. Does he truly love me? And after 15 years together, I read your book Mr. Harvey, to find a problem in our relationship? WOW! I'm a bit perplexed on that matter, and would like to see that one tackle in perhaps, a sequel?
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)Great article. Well done.Sounds like a great read - I had never heard of Steve Harvey before!WOW, Connor. That sounds weird to me, but I know it's possible, and has truth in it; just because we feel entertainers and so forth are 'megastars' in America, they may not be worldwide in fame status. It makes me LOL to realize that he's just regular Steve Harvey-America's Star! LOL. Funny. Very funny.Thanks Connor. Oh, by the way, Mr. Harvey is a comedian, known as one of the Kings of Comedy here in the states. He's used his comedy in stan-up shows, television/movies, and now in books.For example do you know who Hugh Dennis is?Point proven, Connor [LOL]. I have no clue of who Hugh Dennis is. Fill me in, please (smile).
Ronyae,I just happened to pick that book up a couple of weeks ago at Barnes and Noble and skimmed through it while drinking my coffee. I've been married over 20 years to a great guy, but still I loved it - he was pretty much dead on. I wanted to pass it on to all my single girlfriends!You're right, Jean. It is a great read! A must have for single moms, I'd like to add to your comment (smile).Thanks Jean. I'm honored to have you on my comment board!
Steve Harvey is one funny Hombre. Didn't like his show much; standup's much better. Your analysis is very thoughtful and well done.Thanks, Jeff.
Ronyae, Steve Harvey is one talented man, but I never pictured him giving relationship advice. But, since it is from a man's point of view, he definitely qualifies. Steve Harvey...relationships....Who knew?I'm with you, on this one J.L. After seeing him promote the book on Oprah, I just had to read it ... it sounded like he knew what he was talking about (smile).Thanks for reading, J.L.
Ronyae, I am rarely tuned in to Oprah but this particular afternoon, Steve Harvey was her guest. It was a Friday. Apparently she and Gail co-host the show on that day. I like him as a comic. I haven't read the book. One statement discussed on the show had to do with a question about, "how soon to have sex after dating someone." Well, that turned me on and off. On, because I wanted to hear his response. Off, because of his response.
He likened it to the waiting/probationary period before benefits kicked in with an employer. If it were a joke, I would have laughed and thought it funny but it wasn't a joke. He encouraged women to wait at least 3 months/90 days.
There may be great advice along other topics in the book but for this reason, I won't support him with the book. And as someone else said, I don't like his show either but as a standup, the man's hilarious. I totally enjoyed him when he hosted Late Night at the Apollo.
I wish him every success. Thanks for reviewing the book.
Auntie,
AvisThanks Auntie! I share your feelings about the 90 days ... I don't believe I could actually wait that long (LOL). Okay, maybe that was too much information. But, it's the truth!Thanks Avis for reading and sharing your comment.LOL at you! Yeah, TMI but ain't no sense in lying since ya put it out there!Aunty! Now, I'm really [LOL]. I find myself laughing at me all the time. (smile)
Ronyae-Thanks for sharing about the book! I will have to check it out for myself! I have to admit your article made me curious!Thanks Abigail, and reading the book killed my curiosity about men! Take a gander, it'll save you a lot of confusion about your mate.
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