Gay Teens Coming Out
Posted: Wednesday, August 19, 2009
by Ronyae
Writings by Ronyae
Homosexuality among our youth hit home for me when my 16-year old neighbor shared a story of how his best friend told him, and the rest of their friends that he was 'gay'. After drilling in reporter-style to find the source of why his friend 'came out' to them, my neighbor finally gave in, and shared what he felt was the reasons why his friend decided to share the [news] of him not wanting to be with his present girlfriend.
Mouth nearly scraping the cement floor of my porch, I began to see an issue with our youth that was alarming. More recently than ever, our youth as young as pre-teens are revealing a sense of sexuality that has been known to be taboo in certain cultures.
Reports have been shared to reveal that homosexuality among our youth has outgrown the fad stage. This worries me, because I am curious as to where the youth are receiving these mixed signals from? Where is it that our young men find wearing earrings as the 'cool thing'; where is it that our maturing young ladies feel as if they must wear boy jeans and baseball caps to fit in? Where is this place? I guess here on our very own universe. And personally, I feel it's shameful!
Okay, I'm getting too opinionated, and I must stay focused on the point at hand: sexual-confusion among our youth. Yes, I said it, and I mean it! (smile)
But on the other side of the schoolyard, we have students in primary school knowing hand gestures to single out homosexual children, their classmates. Now, I ask you my readers, supporters, and definitely fellow humans. Where and how on Earth is it possible for a child no more than six years of age know anything pertaining to sexuality? Maybe I'm off base when I question whether or not children are getting their 'newfound' intellect from home; picture this: a household speaking against homosexuality so much, until it entice the child. The child, being curious of what is taboo, ventures out in search of "Why?" Why is it so wrong to be friends with another boy/girl? Why visits to a friend with the same-sex parents is prohibited?
I've shared conversations with youth that feel they are homosexual, and when I ask them why, they seem to answer with the same recourse: Someone else. But, I asked the same young people, how is it that someone else can make you do something, without force? Or, were you just curious? That's when the truth spills. From my opinion, I feel that the image of homosexuality being a taboo, maybe I said, may be enticing our youth. If not, then what is? You say it's heredity? HA! I LOL at the thought. If it is, what's the name of the gene?
I have nothing against anything, but ignorance in this matter. I feel that our youth are ignorant to what they are really getting involved in, when they state and act upon having sexual relations with a person of the same sex, and to feel as if they are really in love. In love? With someone of the same sex ... is that holistically acceptable?
Rather it is or not, I submit this as a submission to a collection in reference to our Youth Identity Crisis that has seem to drop from the sky. Or, has it?
Disclaimer: This has not been composed to offend nor place blame, point fingers or anything else that doesn't represent a concern for our future. Thanks for allowing me to vent, and feel free to vent along with me!
Reports have been shared to reveal that homosexuality among our youth has outgrown the fad stage. This worries me, because I am curious as to where the youth are receiving these mixed signals from? Where is it that our young men find wearing earrings as the 'cool thing'; where is it that our maturing young ladies feel as if they must wear boy jeans and baseball caps to fit in? Where is this place? I guess here on our very own universe. And personally, I feel it's shameful!
Okay, I'm getting too opinionated, and I must stay focused on the point at hand: sexual-confusion among our youth. Yes, I said it, and I mean it! (smile)
But on the other side of the schoolyard, we have students in primary school knowing hand gestures to single out homosexual children, their classmates. Now, I ask you my readers, supporters, and definitely fellow humans. Where and how on Earth is it possible for a child no more than six years of age know anything pertaining to sexuality? Maybe I'm off base when I question whether or not children are getting their 'newfound' intellect from home; picture this: a household speaking against homosexuality so much, until it entice the child. The child, being curious of what is taboo, ventures out in search of "Why?" Why is it so wrong to be friends with another boy/girl? Why visits to a friend with the same-sex parents is prohibited?
I've shared conversations with youth that feel they are homosexual, and when I ask them why, they seem to answer with the same recourse: Someone else. But, I asked the same young people, how is it that someone else can make you do something, without force? Or, were you just curious? That's when the truth spills. From my opinion, I feel that the image of homosexuality being a taboo, maybe I said, may be enticing our youth. If not, then what is? You say it's heredity? HA! I LOL at the thought. If it is, what's the name of the gene?
I have nothing against anything, but ignorance in this matter. I feel that our youth are ignorant to what they are really getting involved in, when they state and act upon having sexual relations with a person of the same sex, and to feel as if they are really in love. In love? With someone of the same sex ... is that holistically acceptable?
Rather it is or not, I submit this as a submission to a collection in reference to our Youth Identity Crisis that has seem to drop from the sky. Or, has it?
Disclaimer: This has not been composed to offend nor place blame, point fingers or anything else that doesn't represent a concern for our future. Thanks for allowing me to vent, and feel free to vent along with me!
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More commentsI see what you are saying, Ronyae. Back in the 70s, a few brave people came out as gay and it was a trendy thing to do. Then it didn't get much attention. Now, being gay seems to be the cool thing to do. I was really irritated when watching a cheesey, yet billed as family show a couple nights ago, that a gay character was featured. The show Ruby and the Rockits is geared to young kids and families, yet the joke was made that the male character wasn't interested in Ruby, but other boys. Why in the world are they bringing sex into a family comedy? To make us laugh so it seems harmless. And how many parents are letting their young kids watch the show thinking David Cassidy is not going to promote inappropriate behavior. Look out, what is next on family TV.My point exactly, JL. Why introduce/feature matters that should not be involved with family motivated televison, film, radio/music, and/or screen. That is an issue with me entirely. Thanks JL for reading, and sharing a much needed to hear comment (smile)
Very well written and well said. A topic that maybe it takes braveness to address but you did a wonderful job with this! MarijoWhy, thank-you, Marijo!
Nicely done, Ronyae. You made some very interesting points. Youth are either looking to shock the older folks or to follow them closely- maybe both.I'm LOL, Ken. Shocking is a good term to place on a response to what is gradually rising beyond belief. Thanks for reading, and sharing a good comment.
I think that teenagers get confused about their sexuality and just maybe curious about the same sex experience.Well put, James. Thanks for reading, and sharing your comment with my readers, and Warp Family.
"You say it's heredity? HA! I LOL at the thought. If it is, what's the name of the gene? "Although it does sound ridiculous at first, the increasing body of evidence indicates that homosexuality is, generally speaking, genetically linked, and thus "hereditary" in a way.One way that a "gay gene" could be passed on is if it was recessive (that is it only becomes activated if an individual possesses two copies of it, one from each parent). If each parent had a single copy of the gay gene, then there would be a chance (1 in 4) that each child they had possessed two copies of the gene and thus was genetically "gay".In reality, things are a lot more complex than the simplified version I presented above, and genetic factors are not the only factors - social factors undoubtedly play a part as well.But I hope this example is enough to show that there's nothing ridiculous about the idea that homosexuality could have a hereditary element!It's also a fact that homosexuality exists in many animal species, including many that don't have any significant "social culture", and that in itself shows genetics must be a significant factor.Ben, I am loving and appreciating your comment. To discuss instead of reply to it, I ask another question as to [gay] being 'hereditary'. Is there a determined/proven gene that links a person to want same-sex sexual relationships? I am seeing any kind of 'linkage' being that of which has been placed as an environment; a child raised in a same-sex home may have views that this is the way life is...Your comment on the animals have been witnessed by myself and others, and it makes me say: "Wow". Thanks for reading, and sharing a comment, Ben.
I agree with David. 'Gay' does seem to be more popular now. You just have to look around to see why our youth are confused. Songs like "I Kissed a Girl", Madonna kissing Brittany for shock value. Those kinds of things causes kids to become curious and confused. As for gays, I don't think people who are truly gay, have a choice. Who would choose to live a life which, because of ignorance of others, is a much harder life to live?Brianna, your last statement is filled with such 'deepness'. I am loving it! Thanks for reading, and sharing a great comment.
(sorry f the spelling is bad)well i have a few agurements but frist id like to say i really like how you did the article and how you kinda sounded anti-gay u still made the arcticle nice and i give you a thumbs up for that. but me being a gay teen in highschool i can tell you that i dont think that beign gay is popular. i am proud to be gay but i get bullyed and tormented all the time for being and gay and hardly think the kids are insluting me because m cool. also as i do think enviorment can have something to do with it i also think that some people (if not all gay people) are born gay. as i grew up and am kind of still growing up in a chrsitan famliy with both my parents being stright. being gay never really was a subject in my house except after i came out( and yes my parents accepted me). and also i think being gay is more about love than sex unless your that type of sex over love person. so thank you for posting this article, i found it a good read even if i dont agree with all of it.Thank you, TeenBoy09. You have enlightened us in more ways than you can imagine. And, I appreciate that, if not anyone else.I have a question for you: Do you really feel that a person is born gay? Now, I ask this because I would like to know how is it possible to be born gay, if both parents are [straight]?I also applaud you on having a healthy pysch about yourself, in order to allow insults to 'slide-off', or torments/bullying not to harm your self-esteem; I am proud of you for that.Oh, and by the way, I have no will in me to be "anti-gay". For one, I look at it as a sexual preference and not a way of life. I could never be "anti-gay" because I have experimented with same sex interactions, myself, and to be honest. I'd go on a date with another female in a heartbeat. I see no differences in life, just difference of opinions and choices.I wish I could agree on the essence of being gay falling on a person's emotional level, moreso than a pysical. And, I simply disagree in a sense because of the teens around me. The youth are portraying themselves as immoral sexual beings; not speaking of loving the [same sex] other person, but are more interested in how their sex life is with said party. Seeing as this may not be the case for you, I commend you on realizing that it all starts with Love ... not physically.Thanks for reading and sharing an eye-opening comment.
thanks and sorry i dident mean to make it sound like you were anti-gay. also to answer you question when i say "born with it" i dont mean on a dna or gene lv. i mean i think thats how there mind works. now i suppose some people could just choose to be gay but if they did i dont think theyed be happy. so in my opinion i dont think its a life style choice. but hey thats just me. and yes i know alot of teens including my freinds who are not virgins and there only 15. but i think if your gonna do something that serious you should make sure its the right thing to do. and love is the key to that. and yea mabey im alittle to sensetive for a teen boy.(even if im gay)but thats how i feel. and thanks im gald you like what i said and i found your comment to my comment very enlighting. and in my opinion teen(mainly boys) want to have sex at a young age casue they think it makes you a man or tough.( thats also the reason like most teens hate gay teens becasue they think being gay makes you in-human or a sissy). thanks again for the articleWOW. And, you are probably right about the "anti-gay" issue, teenboy09. It's sad that a person would rather portray hate when they are afraid, rather than assess their issue and deal with it in a more constructive manner. I feel for any and all that have been through it, and will go through it.I didn't take your comment as stating that I was 'anti-gay', I just wanted to make it clear for any others who may have taken it that way (smile). I applaud you for your honesty on all ends, and my prayers are with your decision-making in life, teenboy09. Because after all, you have your entire life ahead of you ... being a teen, and all (wink). And, by the way, being sensitive is not a bad thing, but a balancing trait. Stick with it, and be a complete person, not half of what you are destined to be. Stay Blessed, teenboy09, and don't be a stranger.
thanks your a really smart person ^^. to bad more people cant be like you. and dont worry i wont be a stranger ^^:) ... thanks.
A very bold, but well put article Ronyae (you are probably one of few that could talk about this subject in such a way). I'm a late-comer in this discussion, but there are some very good comments. It seems to me that a lot of kids may be bringing it up just to get attention, positive or negative, (teenboy09 excluded), because they know it is a hot-button for many. Many (dare I say, most) teens are vying for parents' attention who are just too busy working or whatever, and all they have to do after school is watch TV. The amount of information available to the average kid through the "tube" is appalling, and has, I believe, robbed them of their childhood. My wife and I are very particular about what our kids watch (e.g. we do not have cable, and get most of our movies from the library), and encourage them to find "childish" activities to do around the house and outdoors. Even then, the things I have heard their friends talk about just floors me, e.g. a 6 y/o should not be talking about having a boyfriend, let alone making any sexutal references. We talk about freedom of the press and availability of information, but don't realize what it is doing to our younger generations. People are either too busy or too lazy to spend the time to filter out what their kids are learning. We need to protect our kids from TMI ("too much information").Bravo! J.D. I applaud you and your wife for how you are raising your children!
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