"Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child"
Posted: Wednesday, September 30, 2009
by Ronyae
Writings by Ronyae
Although used as a biblical term, the title of this submission is not a biblical one, entirely. But the reference of it definitely became "The Bible", as parents became prime suspects of spoiling their children by not disciplining the child(ren). See bible verse: Proverbs 13:24
We still see it today, and maybe even more as children walk around with $100 shoes and clothing items. Don't tag me wrong just yet. A child can wear high-priced items, if they have earned them, or have paid for them with their own money. I'm all for being rewarded, or earning anything you desire, want and/or need. What I cannot accept is a child walking around in high-priced clothing, when their grades are lower than the basement. A child that knows more about who wrote what rap song and danced in any video, instead of knowing how to respect others let alone themselves. (I'm getting heated, now)
If you don't or can't see it, I sure do. To be honest, it burns me deep when I see children young enough to ride free on public transportation holding conversations with an adult on 'grown folks' issues - wow! Flabbergasted, you say? No, I say: "Something has got to change!" I mean, do the babies come out knowing more than a fifth grader? Picture this: doctors and nurses pull the infant out, and the first thing comes out instead of a cry is, "I want a Ralph Lauren receiving blannket!" Believe it or not, instead of being just as shocked as the attending doctors and nurses, the parent tries to get the demanded blanket. A joke? Afraid not.
I submit this as a collection in reference to Positive Parenting; sure you want your child to have the best. The very best. But it's not healthy to keep "spoling" the child, when the child is not respecting you ... nor themselves. I say: "Break the rod, Break the Child's Bad Habits". Okay, that sounded like child abuse... But, it's not in my book (smile). A small note: Giving too little attention also causes spoiled behavior in a child. So, let's try and keep it balanced People (smile).
Happy Parenting, and may Christ be with you all!
If you don't or can't see it, I sure do. To be honest, it burns me deep when I see children young enough to ride free on public transportation holding conversations with an adult on 'grown folks' issues - wow! Flabbergasted, you say? No, I say: "Something has got to change!" I mean, do the babies come out knowing more than a fifth grader? Picture this: doctors and nurses pull the infant out, and the first thing comes out instead of a cry is, "I want a Ralph Lauren receiving blannket!" Believe it or not, instead of being just as shocked as the attending doctors and nurses, the parent tries to get the demanded blanket. A joke? Afraid not.
I submit this as a collection in reference to Positive Parenting; sure you want your child to have the best. The very best. But it's not healthy to keep "spoling" the child, when the child is not respecting you ... nor themselves. I say: "Break the rod, Break the Child's Bad Habits". Okay, that sounded like child abuse... But, it's not in my book (smile). A small note: Giving too little attention also causes spoiled behavior in a child. So, let's try and keep it balanced People (smile).
Happy Parenting, and may Christ be with you all!
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Top-level comments on this article: (8 total)Bravo Dear Girl, Bravo!I don't think we need to give them the 'best' of commercial items. In disciplining our children and teaching them right from wrong, we then instill the best values in our kids. (Oh, if only values could have been taught to those kids in Chicago who beat the other student to death -- my heart breaks for his parents.)By the way, I spanked and it worked. I am the first to admit it and I have no regrets! It only took one spanking with my oldest and I never had to do it again. Yes, it took 3 times with my younger boy but again, it worked. I didn't beat them either. 3 times on a bare bottom worked wonders. I also didn't tell them that it hurt me more than them! It didn't. Gosh, I sound like an orgre! Incidentally, I am proud of both of my boys. They believe in Jesus Christ; they are honest; and, they have integrity.All it takes is being a parent and not a friend. In today's world, that is a tall order.Thanks for another wonderful rant, Ronyae. Keep them coming cause you always make me smile!Thanks Nancy, and not only for reading and sharing a comment. I thank you for being a parent ... and NOT a friend.
Wonderful! And showing real love means teaching limits and actions and consequences. Yes, it might be more difficult than "rolling over" but how else are they going to learn to live in society if their parents don't teach them basics? MarijoExactly Marijo, and I couldn't stated that better myself!
I was talking with my wife this evening about the way we disciplined our children. Love and boundaries worked wonders. I was on a radio station earlier this year talking about discipline and when I mentioned that I spanked my children but within a system of love and guidance the next caller practically called me an abuser! I do wonder whether her child is currently sitting with his feet on the bus playing his music very loud!I acknowledge that not all children NEED physical discipline but it is an essential tool for some. And I also am VERY proud of my kids.I bet on anything, that her child is doing exactly that, anonymous. Thanks for reading.
Hi Ronyae.This is one great advice to parents. Yes, it is true, I have seen it with my own eyes and how children's bad habits are not being addressed. Thank you for writing this article.Best to you.NenitaThe Very Best to you, Nenita. Thanks for reading, and the comment.
i'm afraid i don't agree at all. How can you teach your children the power orf reasoned debate over violence if you beat your children every time they misbehave? They'll either turn into thoughtless, terrified submissives or, more likely, they'll think its acceptable to beat anyone who doesn't behave how they want them to -just like their parents did to them!Ed,There is a world of difference between beating a child and a spanking. I never used spanking to punish my two boys for making a mistake or doing something wrong. I spanked them when they defied me. When they were told not to do something and did it anyway. Three times on a bare bottom with my hand is not a beating. It smarts for sure but it is over quickly and they do learn the lesson.By the way, when was the last time you reasoned with a 4-year-old?
Zowie, Ronyae, you did much better on this than I ever could, but your philosophy is the same as mine. I have seen single parents who are barely able to keep food on the table, pay ridiculous prices for shoes or jeans for their children just becaue they said everyone is wearing them. It also cause s the kids to grow up feeling as if the world owes them everything. Boy, I'm feeling obstinate today. Thansk for the articleNo, yhank you Joel. Your comment was worth a million!
Ronyae,It is me again...I'm looking for the credits for RC so I am now reading if for the 3rd time. Gosh, we really are on the same wavelength. I haven't been able to get your great words out of my mind.Thank you againThanks, Nancy.
In my humble opinion I feel this was an outstanding article!Thank you, Steve!
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