Mr. Mom: The Single-Parent Dad
Posted: Tuesday, October 13, 2009
by Ronyae
Writings by Ronyae
When Terry married William's Mother, she already had three children; he wasn't deterred by the children, but took it upon himself to be a Father to them. A year later, Terry married his children's Mother (William had been born by this time), regardless of her showing him no concern in being a [good] wife and/or Mother; Terry found himself being both, Mother and Father to the four children they had. All of this being accomplished while he held a 10-hour shift at work, for six days out of the week.
Nevertheless, Terry remained in hopeful spirits that his wife would one day love her family. So, he continued on his ritual of taking care of family and home; his schedule resembled this:
Every morning before work, he made sure the children were up for school (during the weekdays), breakfast was ready for them, and they were properly dressed. He combed and styled his daughters' hair, but making sure his son knew how to properly brush his own hair.
After school, he would take an hour break to ensure his children were at home safely, doing their homework. He then made dinner for the entire family, and then back to work for another two hours. All this was being done while the Mother either slept, or was away from the home for indisclosed reasons.
A friend of Terry asked him one day why is he still with the "deadbeat" wife/Mother of his children, and was flabbergasted when Terry responded, "Someone has to do it. My children need to be taken care of, and hers too."
I wonder how many men would step up to the plate, and take that responsibility, involuntarily?
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Top-level comments on this article: (7 total)He sounds like a man splashed with angelic energies!Wish there were more like him as you always hear of deadbeat dads and self-sacrificing moms,instead.Step up to the plate for others?Step up to the plate and strike out,is what most guys do;(I always wondered how any guy with four balls could even WALK to first base!)Paul schroederThat's a good one, Paul. Thanks for reading (and sharing a great comment).
Do you truly know this man? Wow. Hope his wife will come to know that she is living with a gem! MarijoYes, Marijo. As a matter-of-fact, I dated him and helped him take care of his four children, while planning his divorce (they were separated at the time I entered their lives). He was a gem in his own manner ... but, marijo I will tell you this: he was a scarred gem, beaten and worn from misuse, unappreciation. Thanks for reading, Marijo.
"how many men would step up to the plate, and take that responsibility, involuntarily?" Not many, Ronyae.I did reel from a flash of insight from your piece.Great stuff here!Thanks, Ken.
Ronyae, what a man of integrity. Is this a true story of someone you personally know?Yes it is, Lorrie. It was hard for me to stay objective in the situation. Thanks for reading.
Great article. He does sound like a gem. A diamond in the rough that needs God's healing touch. Thanks for sharing.Linda DPerfectly stated, Linda. Thanks.
Very nice and interesting story has been provided. Thanks a lot and please keeping up same as in futureI will try my best, Gitesh. Thanks for reading, and welcome to my blogs.
One thing puzzles me is that how come the woman shows no concern for the man she chose to marry and with such a sick attitude is also able to bear three more kids that she doesn't care less especially the house chores? Terry should make her come to her senses and stop doing so much for her. Well, every family has a difficult Bible to read as the adage goes.That is so true, Hilda. On the comment you made about Terry's wife, I always wondered the same, but failed to bring life to it because of how the female presented herself to me; the girl had no clue as to what and how to be either, especially being a child of the same form of Mother. As far as having more children, I came to the conclusion that the children were a result of their fighting (make-up sex).Thanks for reading, and sharing a great comment, Hilda.
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